- Home
- Departments
- Departments A - F
- Domestic Violence Unit
- Information
- Have I Been Abused?
Have I Been Abused?
Indicators of Abuse
The following information has been provided by the Countering Domestic Violence (Neville House). If you feel you may be at risk, call our 24-hour crisis line now at (309) 827-7070.
Part I: Physical Abuse
Has your partner done any of these things to you?
- Abandoned you in dangerous places
- Banged your head against the wall
- Held you to keep you from leaving
- Hit or punched you
- Kicked or choked you
- Locked you out of the house
- Pulled your arm
- Pushed or shoved you
- Raped you
- Slapped or bit you
- Subjected you to reckless driving
- Threatened or hurt you with a weapon
- Thrown objects at you
- Tied you down
- Tripped you
- Twisted your arm
Part II: Sexual Abuse
Has your partner ever done any of these things to you?
- Been jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with any available man / woman
- Called you sexual names like whore or frigid
- Criticized you sexually
- Forced particular unwanted sexual acts
- Forced sex after beating
- Forced sex when you were sick or when it was dangerous to your health
- Forced sex with him/her or others or forced you to watch others
- Forced you strip when you didn't want to
- Had affairs with other women / men
- Insisted on uncomfortable touching
- Insisted that you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted
- Minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
- Publicly showed physical interest in other women / men
- Told anti-woman / anti-men jokes or made demeaning remarks about women / men
- Treated women / men as sex objects
- Withheld sex and affection
Part III: Emotional Abuse
Has your partner ever done any of these things to you?
- Abused pets to hurt you
- Blamed you for the violence
- Called you names
- Continually criticized you, called you names, or shouted at you
- Controlled all the money
- Controlled you with his/her possessiveness and jealousy
- Criticized you for the way you raise your children
- Dampened your enthusiasm
- Demeaned and put you down by saying you couldn't manage without masculine / feminine help
- Harassed you about affairs he/she imagined you were having
- Humiliated you in public or private
- Ignored your feelings
- Insulted or drove away your family and friends
- Insulted you
- Intercepted your mail or telephone calls
- Intimidated and belittled you
- Kept you from working, controlled your money, or made all decisions regarding finances
- Made you nervous and upset over being a few minutes late
- Manipulated you with lies and contradictions
- Not allowed you to make any decisions
- Punished or deprived the children when she / he was angry at you
- Refused to socialize with you
- Refused to talk or listen to you
- Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave
- Rejected you
- Ridiculed or insulted women / men as a group
- Ridiculed or insulted your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, heritage, or class
- Showed sarcasm toward you
- Threatened to hurt you or your family
- Threatened to kidnap the children if you left him/her
- Told you about his/her affairs
- Took car keys or money away from you
- Withheld approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment